Going through extreme weight loss is incredibly liberating and will make you feel happier, healthier and more comfortable in your own skin. However, it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, it does come with some cons too…
It’s awesome if you have improved your eating habits and started exercising more, however, extreme weight loss comes with a lot of things that people just don’t tell you. Here are some things that might surprise you…
1.) Just because you’ve reached your goals, doesn’t mean the work stops there
Maintaining your weight can be a lot harder than losing the weight in the first place! When you start your journey, you’re pumped up by the weight loss and needing to buy new clothes. However, once you reach your goal weight, it’s easy to skip exercise and treat yourself to one too many takeaways, because you’ve done all the hard work already, right?!
Wrong. You’ve got to keep eating healthy and exercising to stay at your goal weight and feel good in general.
2.) But it’s a lifestyle change, you need to be patient
We are all HUMAN after all. You might have a bad week and slip up over the weekend, this won’t undo all of your progress. You need to be kind and patient to yourself, it’s a long process! We all want to be perfect but if you want to be balanced and happy, allow yourself to indulge every once in a while.
3.) Your weight loss might become a part of your identity
You may end up becoming someone who is known as the person who lost a ton of weight. It’s important to find out who you are BEYOND the weight loss, there’s much more to you. You are the same person as you were before all of the weight loss, yes you may be more confident and happier but that’s no bad thing!
4.) Relationships will grow stronger or become distant
After embarking on a huge lifestyle change, your interests, hobbies and thoughts all change too. This can lead to your relationships changing. Some may grow closer as you have more in common and some may drift as they don’t fit in your new life change anymore. Either way, expect and embrace these changes.
5.) Dating can be hard
When the subject of your extreme weight loss comes up in dating, it can be pretty stressful. Your mind will race, thinking about whether they will be put off by your story or if they are going to start wondering things about your body. It really can put a lot of pressure on a date but the right one will be supportive and non-judgmental.
6.) When eating out you will feel everyone watching you or silently judging your food
Whether you are eating a salad or an ice-cream sundae that you’ve been craving for weeks, you will worry that everyone is watching and judging your food decisions. It may be true and it may not be true but try not to be self-conscious about it. You know your body and what you can and can’t eat.
7.) You’ll worry that one day you’ll gain the weight back
Every day you are likely to have the irrational thought that at any moment you could spiral out of control and gain all of the weight back. You might overeat or treat yourself for a whole week and the fear of losing control really sets in. Just focus on how far you’ve come and only treat yourself occasionally.
8.) Don’t be afraid of ‘taking up space’
Don’t EVER feel like you are inconveniencing others because of your size. Ignore the rude remarks and eye rolls, stop trying to make your body smaller when you are sitting next to a stranger. Embrace who you are. We are all on a journey and don’t let someone else judge yours.
9.) Non-scale victories are the most important
If you set unrealistic scale goals, you will be disappointed time and time again. If you want to lose all of your weight as soon as possible, it’s just not going to happen. Sometimes the scale just won’t budge so it’s best to focus on your mental strength, your healthy diet and how much stronger you are in general. Small victories are often the best!
10.) You will CRAVE fresh, healthy whole foods
Small changes really do lead to permanent ones. As you start to eat healthier, your taste buds will start to change and before you know it, you’ll be choosing salmon over fried chicken! Yeah, you’ll still want chocolate occasionally but nowhere near as much.
11.) Your journey will be your motivation
As you embark on your weight loss journey, you will find inspiration from other people’s weight-loss journeys. If you document your own, yes, you’ll be vulnerable but you will also be the source of motivation for others too.
12.) Inspiring others will be very rewarding
If you document your journey and encourage other people to do the same, it will be incredibly heartwarming to see the number of people that you have inspired and cheered on during their journey. Be someone that other people want to be, inspire change to be healthy.
13.) People yourself for VERY personal questions
Upon finding out about your extreme weight loss, strangers may think that it’s appropriate to ask you about how heavy you are, your loose skin and what size you used to be. If you ever feel uncomfortable with these questions, just don’t answer!
14.) You’ll constantly be buying new clothes
As you lose a lot of weight, you will quickly find that literally NONE of your clothes fit you anymore. Thrift stores are definitely your best friend and are where you will need to shop for an entirely new wardrobe.
15.) You will learn to truly love yourself
This is the most extraordinary transformation of them all. You will finally completely love yourself! You’ll soon realise that you don’t have to lose weight to love yourself. But eating healthy and exercising are ways to show that you DO love and care for yourself. It’s a mindset not how you look.
If you are embarking on your weight loss journey or you have already done so, prepare for these things to definitely start happening! It’s not a bad thing and as long as you love yourself and your body, don’t worry about what anyone else thinks.