First Dates is a very popular realty TV show in the UK. As the name suggests, it’s a show in which two people, who have never met before, go on a date. The producers match them by their interests and preferences, and the viewers get to see the whole process of them getting to know each other.
Sometimes it goes brilliantly, sometimes it’s a car crash, and at the end of the show, the couple are asked if they would like to see each other again.
A recent episode of the show has been sparking debate online, after one of the female guests got very agitated when it became apparent that she would have to pay her share of the meal she and her date just enjoyed.
When presented with the bill, the waiter asked how they would be paying, the subtext of which was a subtle ‘which of you will be paying for the meal?’.
The man at the table asked his date what she wanted to do, and suggested splitting the bill. There then followed a very awkward silence, in which the young woman, although laughing, seemed visibly annoyed that she was expected to pay for her half of the bill.
Eventually, they decided that they would split it, but the woman wasn’t exactly graceful about it. In fact, she went as far as saying “I’m sure you wouldn’t make me pay for my meal” to the waiter when handing over her card.
Once the waiter had left, the couple discussed the decision further, with attempts to laugh it off not quite working. She said “I don’t need someone to pay everything for me, but…”
Reading between the lines, it turned out the ‘but’ was basically that she wanted him to pay for the meal, and expected him to do so. In fact, she wouldn’t even let it go once she was in the cab home, saying to the driver “I would have preferred a man that would pay for my meal, but what can you do?”
— Channel 4 (@Channel4) December 26, 2018
Needless to say, the two didn’t go on a second date, and their story ended there – but that wasn’t the end of the story on social media.
The scene sparked a huge amount of debate online, with many arguing that she shouldn’t expect the man to pay for everything – after all, we’re all about equality nowadays, right?
Some would say that the man should’ve offered to pay, and then it was down to her whether she accepted it or not. But on the other hand, why should he offer? We don’t live in the 1950s anymore. Also, she obviously wanted him to pay for her meal, so why did she claim that she didn’t need a man to pay for her, when that obviously is what she wants?
Let us know your thoughts in the comments, folks.