You try to overcompensate
You don’t need to metamorphose into a walking thesaurus just to impress your date. Sprinkling conversation with gargantuan words won’t magically make you more captivating. Confidence comes from being authentic, not flaunting a linguistic arsenal. Embrace your natural charm; it’s much more attractive.
You’re awkwardly quiet
Silence on a date isn’t necessarily an enemy. However, when it stretches longer than a goldfish’s attention span, it becomes an elephant in the room. Don’t be afraid to break the silence with a witty comment or share a humorous anecdote – else wkward silence will become the soundtrack of your date.
You over-share everything
Sharing is caring, but on a first date, too much information can be overwhelming. Hold back a bit on life history and save some juicy stories for a future rendezvous. Remember, a little mystery can be intriguing, keep the conversation flowing and keep your date guessing, rather than overwhelming them with facts about you.
You’re constantly complaining
Complaining about your boss, your ex, and the weather all in one go is like a one-way ticket to the Debbie Downer zone, and makes you look insecure. Keep the vibe positive; nobody wants to play therapist on a first date. Share stories that make you smile, not ones that summon rain clouds.
You’re on your phone too much
While your cell is a marvel of technology, it doesn’t make for an ideal date companion. If you’re feeling nervous, it can be tempting to turn to your phone. But silence that thing, resist the urge to Instagram your appetizer, and engage with your date. The world of notifications can wait. Everything you need is sitting right in front of you.
You can’t stop nodding
Nodding along to everything your date says like a hyperactive bobblehead might seem agreeable, but it’s a recipe for appearing insincere or desperate, and can be offputting for your date. Offer your genuine input, even if it means respectfully disagreeing. Authenticity beats constant agreement any day.
You’re uncomfortable in your outfit
Dressing to impress is commendable, but don’t let your outfit wear you. If those towering stilettos or that skin-tight three-piece suit make you fidget and squirm throughout the date, it’ll show. Choose attire that exudes confidence, but also lets you breathe and be comfortable.
You’re more interested in the food than your date
Eating like you’re in a hot dog-eating contest doesn’t make you look more confident; it just leaves you gasping for breath. Slow down, savor your meal, and engage in the conversation. Your date is there to enjoy your company, not witness a culinary sprint.
You can’t stop bragging
Confidence is fantastic, but constantly boasting about your amazing talents and achievements can cross into the realm of arrogance. Dont make up stories just to sound more interesting than you are. Let your date discover your awesomeness over time. Humility can be an attractive quality, too.
Your pick-up lines are cringe
While flirting can add a dash of excitement to a date, going overboard can make you seem insincere. Balance is key. Leave room for genuine conversation and connection. Remember, a sly wink is charming, but drowning your date in pick-up lines is more cringe-worthy than confident.
