His story has the internet divided
Pregnancy is one of the toughest things that a person can go through, but thanks to those pesky hormones, it can also take a big toll on our emotions.
That sounds like the case for one anonymous husband, who says that ever since his wife’s become pregnant, she’s convinced that he’s cheating on her. In fact, things have got to the point where she even requested him to install a tracking app,
Well, the young man has just about had enough, and is heading to the internet for advice – because that always works out well, right?
According to the husband, his wife has been extremely insecure about their relationship ever since she got pregnant. In fact, at one point, he says that his wife has become “The most insecure person I’ve ever met”
In his post on Reddit, the husband explained that his wife is convinced he’s cheating on her and simply won’t be told otherwise. “She wakes me up in the middle of the night to ask me if I still love her,” he wrote. “I was really fine with that. I thought the hormones were messing with her.”
“But then she took things to a whole new level by asking him to install a tracking app to prove that he isn’t straying. And what’s worse, now she’s using the tracking app to ask her husband for favors related to where he is. “If I’m near a store, she’ll ask me to bring her something from that store.”
Now, I must say, this is above and beyond in terms of jealousy and suspicion – although, obviously, we only know one side of the story.
At his wit’s end, the husband feels like he needs to call his wife out on her erratic behavior. However, he worries that this would be too much for her to handle in her present emotional state.
He asked Reddit whether he was out of order for calling her “the most insecure person I’ve ever met,” and unsurprisingly, opinion was split.
“It sometimes seems like people go out of the way to avoid having mature conversations,” one person wrote in the comments. “Yes, you can tell her how her behavior makes you feel, and you can tell her that you would like her to change it. But going in all hyperbolic ‘most insecure person ever’ is not helpful and mean.”
And someone else agreed that talking it out was better than calling her names. “Hormones and stress can mess up a person’s thinking really bad. I would just sit her down and work on this in little steps rather then saying this all at once,” the person wrote.
It seems like the issue they had was with the man’s tone, rather than the information he was conveying.
“If you tell her she’s insecure it’ll make things so much worse,” another person advised. “You should talk to her about it though, but maybe try and do it in a way where she doesn’t feel she’s under attack. Also, let the whole, her asking you to get her things from the shop things go. That comes with the territory of your Mrs. being pregnant.”
But some people argued that if his wife was going to behave like this, he shouldn’t feel bad over being annoyed about it.
“Pregnancy is not an excuse for manipulative and controlling behavior,” one person wrote in their response. “It’s not a miracle, she’s not a goddess and she does not need to be put on a pedestal,” they continued. “You must to deal with the situation respectfully, but she also has to be rational about it. Pregnancy does not excuse this.”
Others agreed, with one saying that “Tracking your husband via GPS has got to be one the most insecure, paranoid, manipulative and abusive things I’ve ever heard of”
In an update, the husband agreed that it might be best to not mention the whole “insecure” thing. Going forward, he’s decided that he will just delete the tracker app going forward. Something tells me that this story isn’t over yet…