They never give a straight answer when talking about the future
Your partner will usually resort to vague and non-specific answers when the future is brought up. Having a ‘we’ll wait and see’ attitude when discussing the next phase of your relationship is a clear sign that they are not prepared to plan in the long term, or that they are simply unwilling to do so.
Aversion to relationship labels
Your partner’s aversion to using labels that signify a committed relationship can lead to uncertainty about the nature of your partnership. They may resist terms like boyfriend or girlfriend, causing confusion and potential miscommunication about the seriousness and direction of the relationship.
They don’t want to celebrate milestones
Your partner consistently avoids relationship milestones such as anniversaries, meeting family, or expressing deep emotional sentiments. When you suggest throwing a party or a planned event, they shut it down. This avoidance of important relationship markers can hinder the development of a deeper and more committed connection between the two of you.
They keep you off their socials
Your partner’s reluctance to share relationship updates or pictures online may signal commitment issues. They may be hesitant to make their commitment public, keeping the relationship in a more ambiguous state. Their desire to keep the relationship offline might reflect a deeper hesitation to fully commit.
Their friends don’t know they have a partner
You randomly meet one of your partners friends or co-workers while out with them one day and they don’t know who you are. If their friend turns to them and says “I didn’t know you had a girlfriend/boyfriend”, this shows a complete lack of willing for them to share your relationship with the wider world.
They take solo trips without you
Your partner frequently opts for solo vacations, showing a preference for traveling alone rather than planning romantic getaways together. They might even claim it’s because it’s to a place they thought you wouldn’t want to go. This choice suggests a desire to maintain a certain level of personal independence and distance from full commitment within the relationship.
They don’t use the ‘L-word’
Your partner’s reluctance to express affection and use terms like love is noticeable. They seem to avoid emotional declarations and the use of the L-word as if it were something to be cautiously avoided. While you may be open to openly expressing your emotions, they appear to keep their feelings under lock and key.
They use humor as a defence mechanism
Using humor to deflect conversations about commitment can be a defence mechanism employed by your partner. While they may make light-hearted jokes, this humor often conceals deeper commitment concerns and inhibits the ability to engage in genuine and open discussions about the future.
You can’t plan anything with them
When faced with discussions about the future, your partner exhibits significant resistance. These conversations trigger anxiety, causing them to avoid any form of long-term commitment or planning. This resistance can leave you both in a state of uncertainty about the trajectory of your relationship.
Their past relationships are a mystery
Your partner has a troubling history of abruptly ending previous relationships, often without providing any explanations. These sudden departures have left former partners feeling bewildered and hurt. This pattern of relationship ghosting indicates a recurring discomfort with addressing relationship issues and suggests underlying commitment fears that affect their approach to long-term partnerships.
