Breathe normally
If you’re lying and your brain temperature rises, you may begin to breathe more quickly. When you tell a lie or make a false statement, you might involuntarily take a quick breath. This is because your brain is trying to lower its temperature by bringing more oxygen into your bloodstream. To avoid giving yourself away when you’re lying, try not to change your breathing pattern.
Don’t touch your neck
When people are feeling anxious or nervous, they tend to touch their throats and neck area. Body language experts use this information to determine when someone is being dishonest. If you want to appear honest when you’re lying, keep your hands away from your neck.
Relax your lips
When people lie, they often unconsciously tighten their lips. Body language experts look for this as one of the first signs of deception. When people are telling the truth, they tend to relax their lips. You can use this fact to your advantage: Relaxing your lips when you speak can help convince people that you’re being honest.
Turn your body towards them
When you’re lying to someone, it can be difficult to look them in the eye. You might shift slightly in your seat or turn away from the person as a way of avoiding eye contact. This can give you away. To enhance your lying skills, try not to turn away from the person you are telling a lie to.
Don’t rub your eyes
You should keep your hands in a natural position when you are lying, especially your thumbs. If you need to reach for something, make sure that your hand is visible and avoid rubbing at your eyes or adjusting your glasses – if you wear them.
Be confident
Lying is all about confidence. The more confident you are in your lie, the more believable it will be. If you start to doubt yourself, though, it’s likely that others will notice. Just remember that if they don’t know you’re lying, they won’t suspect a thing! People have trouble detecting lies, so don’t underestimate the power of subtle deception.
Keep your lies grounded in reality
People tend to believe you if you tell them something that sounds believable. The key is to keep your lies within the realm of possibility, so they don’t sound too farfetched. You can shave a few years off your age, add an inch or two to your height and a few thousand dollars to your salary and nobody will ever know.
Don’t ramble
To avoid being caught in a lie, stick to the simple facts. Don’t offer unnecessary details, which could be used against you. If you’re playing poker against a friend or someone you know well, it’s fine to give them information about your hand. But if you are playing against a skilled opponent, it is best to minimize the information that you give away.
Keep smiling
If someone seems skeptical of your story, be friendly and reassuring. Keep your tone light and casual, keep a relaxed smile, and don’t apologize for anything. Give your listener another chance to believe you by repeating the important details of your story.
Don’t get distracted
When you are talking with someone, try to stay focused on the conversation and the person you are speaking with. If you can, avoid distractions and be truly present in the moment. This will help you communicate more effectively and appear more trustworthy.
Answer questions with questions
Lying can be a slippery slope. Instead of telling an outright lie, a good liar will give an answer that is evasive or misleading. For example, if you are asked about something you did wrong and wish to avoid admitting it, respond with another question instead of admitting or denying the truth.
Maintain eye contact
When you lie, you must believe that your lie is true. You must make and maintain eye contact, have good posture and act confidently. If you look away, slump over, or fidget, people will know that you’re lying because no one feels nervous or lacks confidence when telling the truth.
Swallow quietly
When someone is under stress, they might swallow hard or quickly. This doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re lying – it could just be a nervous reaction. But it can make a lie a lot more convincing if you avoid doing it.
Try not to fidget
When you’re nervous, your body’s temperature increases. The brain has a built-in mechanism for cooling down: It prompts you to touch your own skin. This helps your body cool down by increasing blood flow to the surface of the skin, where heat is released into the air.
Know what they know
When lying, it is important to know what your target knows about you. A good liar must seem like they are telling the truth, and in order for that to happen, one must be aware of what the target already does or doesn’t know. This way, you can avoid talking your way into traps.
Listen more than you talk
A good liar is a good listener. A person who lies needs to know what to say, but also when and how to say it. A good liar will listen carefully to what the other person has to say, then fill in any gaps with lies of his or her own.
Start with the truth
The lesson here is simple: if you’re trying to sell a lie, make sure that one little part of it is true. Many conversational lies are completely undetectable. In fact, most people will believe a lie that has a kernel of truth in it. If one part of a statement is true, most people will accept that the entire statement is probably true.
Keep your lower body grounded
When you’re nervous or anxious, it can be hard to sit still. You might tap your feet or shuffle them back and forth. While these fidgety movements might seem harmless, they could give others the impression that you’re uncomfortable or lying. So be conscious of your movements and avoid unnecessary body language when telling a lie.
Take care of your appearance
You might not like it, but attractive people are often perceived as being more honest than unattractive people. So if you want to be a better liar, it might help to take care of your appearance – whether that’s dressing well or spending extra time on grooming.
Enhance your vocabulary
When you are trying to be a better liar, a good way to convince people that you are being honest is to use big words. Using big words makes it sound like you know what you’re talking about, and people will trust you more because they think you have a lot of knowledge on the subject.
Improve your memory
When you lie, you need to remember all the details of your story so that you don’t trip up. A good memory will help you to do that. You have to remember every tiny detail because if later on down the road you are asked a question put to you in front of all your peers, you’ll find it hard to lie again.
Plan ahead
To lie successfully, you have to be mentally prepared for what you are going to say. If you know the lie before you tell it, it will be easier for you to remember when and where to use it. You may tell lies about some details in stories that you make up, such as who else was involved or what happened.
Practice ahead of time
It is best to rehearse what you are going to say. If you are well prepared, you will be more likely to stick to the script. If you stick to the script, it is easier for the other person to believe that you are telling the truth. The more you practice, the easier it’ll be for you to fool other people.
Don’t involve others
When lying, it’s best not to involve other people. If you can keep your lies just between you, it will be much easier for you to avoid getting caught. If you do need to ask someone to cover for you, keep your explanation simple and don’t give away all the details.
Stay hydrated
When you are telling a lie, your mind is working hard to control your natural urges. To keep yourself from blurting out the truth, you need to activate your inhibitory control – the part of your brain that helps you resist urges. One way to do this is by drinking a lot beforehand so you are forced to control your urge to use the bathroom.
Write it down
One of the problems with successful lying is that it requires a lot of work. You have to be consistent, so make notes and memorize details. One of the most common mistakes people make when trying to tell a believable lie is that they tell different versions of the story with slightly different details to different people. Writing it down helps to keep your story straight.
Get creative
When you’re trying to sell your story, you’ll probably have to answer some tough questions. Be ready for anything! If someone asks an unexpected question, don’t panic or get stressed. Instead, be creative and think of a way to blend your answer into the rest of your story.
Empathize with your target
Lying is about making other people believe what you want them to believe. One way to become a better liar is to learn to empathize with your audience. Consider the feelings of others and try to frame lies in a way that causes the least pain or danger for them.
Know your audience
There is a flip side to deception. To be able to deceive successfully, you must have the ability to understand how others will perceive your own behavior. It’s not just that you have to know your audience; you also need to know yourself enough not to trip up when you try and put on a show.
Build a connection
Focus on connecting to the person with whom you are speaking. Do not try to manipulate them with facts or logic. Your expression of emotions will force their attention and, later, their agreement with you. It is important, however, when lying, not to arouse suspicion of others by displaying too much familiarity with someone with whom you have not had much contact.
Learn from others
Watch how others lie. It may seem obvious at first, but don’t be afraid to watch people in action and try to pick up on their techniques. Then practice those techniques yourself.
it is important for liars to understand how people react when they lie, which means learning how to spot them as well.
Be able to improvise
Good liars are always ready with an answer even if they don’t know the exact details of what happened or what they did on a certain day or time period. They should be able to think on their feet and come up with an appropriate response quickly enough so that it does not appear as if they are lying.
Talk with your hands
Hand gestures can help add emphasis to your story while also helping keep your hands occupied so that they aren’t doing anything suspicious like scratching your nose or touching your face while talking, which will give away that something isn’t right.
Believe your own lies
The best liars are the ones who believe their own lies. They have to be able to convince themselves that what they’re saying is true. In order to do this, they must be adept at lying to themselves. In fact, you might say that good liars are just good storytellers.
Don’t get caught up on details
Details are often what give away lies – so keep those details vague when telling stories or making claims about yourself or others. Make sure that any details you provide are consistent throughout your lies. For example, if you say someone has green eyes one time but brown eyes another time, people will start questioning your story.
Don’t let your emotions get in the way
When we tell lies, we often feel guilty or anxious about doing so because lying goes against our morals and values as well as our conscience. But when we’re trying to convince someone else that we’re being honest with them, our emotions have no place in the conversation; they just get in the way of our ability to fabricate stories effectively.
Use diversion tactics
Don’t answer questions directly but ask for more information instead. If someone asks you whether you went out last night, say “What do you mean? What time did I leave?” This will turn the attention to the other person and get them thinking about their own story as opposed to yours.
Use vague language
Use words like “a lot” or “lots of” instead of precise numbers when describing something, such as how much money they’ve saved over the years or how many miles they run each week. This makes it harder for people to challenge your claims later on because they can’t call them out as lies based solely on numbers.
Make sure your story matches others
Make sure your story matches up with other people’s versions of events (if there are any). If possible, try to learn as much as possible from them beforehand so you don’t have to make things up on the spot when they ask questions about your story later on in the conversation or after they leave.
Use your authority
People listen to those who have power over them. When you tell someone something, they are more likely to believe what you say if they respect your position or title in some way. If you don’t have any authority over others in your life, try using words like “I’ve heard” or “Many experts say” instead of just saying “This is true!”
